Hey girl! You have been seeing this handsome guy in your area and maybe wondering, Um! should I tell him I love You? Wait, clear that old picture about girls doesn’t propose to a guy from your mind. If you love him, why not confess it out as well. It depends on how and when you tell him I love you, so there is nothing wrong with that. Try saying these cute words with him whenever you’re around him if you don’t know how to start your conversation.
However, before taking all the courage to propose to him, I want you to consider the following points.
Consider your definition of love.
So think about what does the word love means to you. Now for most women, when I ask their definition of love, they tell me. I know, I feel it. So I usually follow up with this question. When that feeling occurs, how much do you know about the guy?
For example, can you name five things you don’t like about him?
Because I can tell you when I see true love, say in married couples or those that have been together for years, she finds it easy to find five things she doesn’t like about him.
I have to stop her from listing things because she keeps listing them, but she still loves him.
So now is that your definition of love?
To me, at least, that’s the most real definition.
So while I could never presume to give you a time-frame of when exactly to say the words, I’d recommend you base your definition off of how well you know him how much do you know him. So if you’re going to say, “I love you,” and you can’t name at least a good number of things you don’t like about him, you might want to consider whether it could be the rose-colored glasses talking and maybe dial it back for a couple of months.
Make him work for it.
I’ve always found it odd how we as a society have this culture where women get told to make a guy work for sex and value your bodies.
But I’ve rarely heard anyone tell women to make him work for your love and to value something much more important – your heart.
Because if you have sex with a guy and he leaves, that sucks. Especially if you liked him, but it’s not that crippling.
That’s essentially what a booty call is.
But if you love someone and he leaves, that takes months to get over and hurts you a hell of a lot more in the meantime.
Never forget that your love as a woman is like the most valuable gift you can ever give to a man. So I say forget sex and make him work for you in every sense of the word.
Please don’t give it away to every guy you’ve known for only a few months.
Pick your moment.
So if you’ve decided he’s the right guy and you want to say it, do it in a private, safe space where you won’t be interrupted.
You know, make sure neither of you has anywhere to be, and you’re both feeling fairly open and vulnerable with
one another. How can you tell if the guy likes you and is feeling the same attraction towards you?
Avoid the three “Don’ts.”
Look, there are not many hard rules when saying, “I love you,” but this is one of mine.
Don’t say it for the first time when you’re either drunk, having sex, or have known him for less than three months. You want it to be genuine, and sex or alcohol means it’s not going to be as much. And look, as we spoke about earlier, you want to know a lot about him and make him work for it.
So unless he’s a friend that you knew years before dating him, I think that’s something you’re better off saving to make sure he’s a man worthy of it.
Avoid repeating yourself.
If you decide to say it and put your heart out there, there’s always a small chance it may not be reciprocated.
And look, that’s cool. It doesn’t mean crisis stations.